Love > Distance

Apr 15, 2018
3 min read

Before I start rambling on this topic let me just say LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS CAN WORK!!!

Now that I got that out we can proceed lol. Quick question though when you meet someone in high school and began to build a friendship do you say to yourself "Im just going to be friends with her/him until we graduate!" NO. Okay well I didn't when I meet someone and I actually like them and we began to build a bond I definitely expect for it to be long term. Does it always happen that way? No, but I don't plan for my relationships to end they just happen sometimes. With that being said, long distance relationships can work if both people are willing to make it work.

I know it's easier said then done but I promise it can surely be done!!

I get so many messages about how to make long distance relationships work or tips for keeping the communication running smooth being hours away from each other. I decided to just go ahead and dedicate a blog post to this topic, I hope you all enjoy and can benefit!

Taking it back for the ones who don't know;

In the beginning of my relationship my boyfriend went to school in Miami, Florida. Yes, I said it MIAMI!! We were 14 hours away from each other (driving distance) so needless to say we only seen each other MAJOR holidays. Was it hard? Hell yeah but did we put in the effort and make it work? Hell yeah lol! Let me tell you, face time was literally our best friend we would eat sleep and breath in each others faces through that screen. My boyfriend was a full time student and worked part time while I was a part time student working full time so we pretty much had to set time aside for face time dates, communication definitely was the key to our relationship (and still is). When we find out we had something to do we did our best to communicate and made sure we were on the same page. There are so many components and key factors to making a long distance relationship work, I decided to narrow it down and try to make it easy to remember using these 3 C's.

Creativity: This may seem like it's obvious but in a long distance relationship this is A BIG ONE! Since you guys can't go places together whenever you want or get to do "couple things" together in person, you must get creative! This can mean a variety of things for different couples but some examples are random videos and pictures, edible arrangements (not just for holidays), random surprises are always great even phone calls! (They go a long way) GET CORNY WITH YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER, After all they should be your best friend!

One thing me and boyfriend used to do was have movie nights together on face time and have the same Netflix or Hulu movie playing. We both enjoyed this and actually did it pretty often.

Commitment: I know you may say to yourself being in a relationship with someone makes you committed to them. This may very well be true but what's even more important than just saying it to that person is believing it yourself. In any relationship this is very important but especially in long distance relationships, you have to make sure you truly want to be and WILL BE committed to your significant other. Even though you may have to go months without seeing them, while also having petty arguments and not being able to talk whenever you please, that commitment must be bigger than all that deep down inside or you won't be able to overcome those hard times.

And Last but not least ....

Collective Effort: I cannot stress this one enough !!!! You both have to be willing to be corny, lol. But no, really there has to be times where both of you will compromise and initiate. If you are afraid your partner will fall short in this are plan ahead. For example this week you can pick the movie for your face time date but then next week let your partner know he will have to come up with the movie or tv series! Make sure you pick movies or kind gestures that your partner enjoys too, don't only do what you enjoy.

Those three things definitely helped us through our year and a half away from each other, hopefully you all can benefit!

Feel free to share other creative gestures that may have worked for you !