Relationship Ingredients

Okay guys, so some of you voted on Twitter saying that you wanted to know everything that a relationship entails featuring my real life experiences so here it goes!

I've been in a couple relationships, but i've only been in love once. I dated this guy for about four years in high school. Back then if you told me we wouldn't even be in each others lives now i'd call you a liar lol. This guy was my first everything, he was my best friend, we were inseparable. He was a year older than me and when he went to college in another state he became distant and eventually started dating another girl. When i found out I was devastated. I didn't leave my dorm room for 3 days.....yes 3 days. It felt like life was over, I gained so much weight after, it felt like I had become cold. But, life has to go on. I think this experience, in particular, broke be down and forced me to rebuild myself. I was forced to find happiness within myself and truly learn my worth. It wasn't until like two years later that I realized how toxic he was and unhealthy our relationship really was...

A healthy relationship requires Trust, Laughter, Loyalty, Reassurance, and God.

You HAVE TO trust your significant other. No matter what you may think, your relationship will NOT last if you do not trust them. Every time their phone rings or they receive a text you will assume and become curious, every time they go out with their friends you will assume they are cheating, it will cause you to become insecure and the constant questioning will cause your significant other to become fed up.

Laughter is a MUST in a relationship! I don't care what anyone says. If you cannot be your partners friend first before anything and laugh and joke with them, your relationship will die fast. Laughter is a component of happiness, it may end an argument, it may make light of a bad situation, it may be what creates those butterflies in your stomach, it may be the reason your late night phone calls go from one hour to two to three to the next morning!

Loyalty....if you don't have the above two, you BETTER have this. If you step out of your relationship END IT. I see it so often with my friends and just people on social media....YOU REALLY THINK YOUR GIRLFRIEND IS GOING TO TAKE YOU BACK IF YOU GET 2,000 RETWEETS ON A "FORGIVE ME" POST AFTER YOU SLEPT WITH ALL THE GIRLS IN YOUR LIKES?!?! Listen, if you ever feel the need to cheat...don't. The pain of a break up is so much more bearable than finding out your significant other stepped out.

Reassurance is my favorite ingredient in a relationship lol. I was never an insecure girl, but telling me on a daily that you love me or that you think i'm beautiful even when I look terrible is important to me. As my man, I will always make you feel wanted and make you feel like no other man can compare to you so I want that in return and i'm sure most women do too.

God is the most important ingredient because religious or not, God is what will hold a relationship together. Praying with your significant other and going to God with your troubles is what will keep your relationship solid. The devil will work in your relationship, but you must have faith that God will preserve the love and happiness in your relationship.

~TeaWithIndi

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