Sex, sex, sex!

So guys, we're all adults here. Sex sells, it is a consistent topic in conversations, it can be used to hurt people, it can be used to help people, it is seen as negative, and it is seen as positive. Sex is different for everyone, but I am going to give you my thoughts on it.

Personally, I was never the type to have casual sex. As a senior in college, I've heard it all. As i've gotten older, I realized sex is very prevalent, mostly everyone is doing it, but I noticed the love that is supposed to be included in sex is barely apart of sex these days. Well, let's argue....

I never understood nor envied girls who were sexually free, maybe because it made me uncomfortable. I see nothing wrong with a woman wanting to have sex, but I couldn't imagine doing it when there are no feelings involved. But, to each it's own. A part of my view on sex, comes from the fear of being hurt or being labeled as a 'hoe' or a 'thot'. I remember a friend telling me I was childish because I was shook after hearing a girl had over 20 bodies! I still think he is delusional.....

I understand that sex is a normal thing in life and to be honest no one should be judged for wanting to have sex freely. BUT, I do believe there should be a time in your life, male or female, where you ask yourself WHY DID I SLEEP WITH SO MANY PEOPLE? And if you can avoid having sexual regrets, please do.

Now, as far as the details of sex. Everyone likes different things. Some people are just a little OC for my liking, for instance, Gabrielle Union tossing D Wade's salad?!? Yeah, that's a no from me! But coming from a woman's perspective, I noticed when having sex women like everywhere to be acknowledged. What I mean by that is, men who only focus on the one area of a woman's body, and i'll tell you a secret, it is NOT actually satisfying her. Focus on her ENTIRE body!

I'm no expert, but women talk, and men don't listen (ever). A lot of men are self-fish in the bedroom, they have sex for their own satisfaction, not to actually please their partner as well. Like, what? Reciprocity is the key to good sex! If both parties handle each other's needs, good things will come....lol, pun intended. -Tea With Indi

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